This is an interesting thread. Thanks for ressurecting it; I somehow missed it the first go-around a few months ago.
Concerning the OP, it seems to me that Boyd makes to much of free-will. First, simply put, concerning the scope of our lives we have relatively little, very little free will. We do not choose when, to whom, how we’re born. We do not choose our personality type, our IQ level, our Emotional makeup, our gender, our hair color (or even if we have hair). We do not choose what influences come into our lives, the culture we’re born into, the religion we’re raised under. We do not choose what “facts” and “values” we are programmed with as children. We simply do not have absolute free-will, and never will until we come to be like God, absolutely in control of ourselves and everything around us! So to rest one’s theology on the principle that “love requires free-will” is, well, a flimsy foundation imo. Absolute free-will is an illusion. We are born slaves of unrighteousness, plagued to various degrees with evil within and without. We are dead in our sins, under the bondage of evil and the fear of death - and we have absolutely no choice in being born that way.
In like manner, scripture affirms that one being born of the Spirit, born again, born into the freedom of Christ is not accomplished through the will of man, but the will of God! We do not “choose” the Lord, but He chose us! We do not save ourselves from this present evil age, but Jesus saves us, liberates us. Only the free have “free-will”. Free-will is a by-product of salvation, something that we progressively grow in. Even being saved we only have limited free-will. And as we use that freedom wisely, we’re given more, but if we misuse it, it is taken from us until we repent!
Furthermore, the whole argument that love requires free-will just doesn’t make sense to me. If we were created for relationship with God, do we then choose whether or not to have a relationship with God? If He is the source of all creation, can creation then choose to not be in relationship to the creator? I don’t think so.
Concerning “baby universalism”, well, I appreciate Boyd showing how killing children is the only logical option for parents according to traditional Arminianian theology if they love their children and want to ensure them going to heaven, if one assumes all children that die go to heaven. This of course is if salvation is all about “going to heaven someday.”
I believe we have it backwards though, from God’s perspective He’s already Lord of all, all are in Christ, getting us into heaven is an accomplished deed! But salvation, from our perspective, is about getting heaven into us today! How do we help advance the kingdom of heaven on earth, the timetranscending kingdom of God advancing within, taking over the present evil age? What can we do to help heaven come to earth – praying and seeking, "Thy kingdom come on earth as it IS in heaven!?
Baby universalism is a huge problem for Arminianism. Of course, Calvinism is not strapped with that for God chooses who’s saved and who’s not, even between babies that die.
Also concerning the “age of accountability”, the older my children are, the more self aware they are, the more they are given, the more they are accountable to me. They do not have free-will, and yet they love me. They love me because I first love them and give my life for them. Love comes from love, not free-will. Love leads us, empowers us to love in response. What one sows one reaps is an immutable law of the universe.
BTW, the “one must have free-will” argument is a philosophical argument, not a scriptural one. And thus from an experiential perspective I disagree with the whole argument for I recognize experientially how limited, even illusionary, my “free-will” is. So for me, scripture, experience, and even reason are in opposition to the free-will argument.