STT,
When Jesus speaks of “taking up your cross,” what I hear is “die to your own efforts at becoming righteous.” Remember that Jesus was always speaking to the Jews of His day. He said Himself that He wasn’t sent to the Gentiles but to the Children of Israel. Yes, He has a lot to say that speaks to us–the church of today–but we’ll understand Him far better if we realize who His immediate audience was. The Jews were focused on obeying the Law of Moses. In the Exodus they asked for a law. They were terrified by the mountain that burned and the voice that spoke to them from it–not to mention that if so much as a beast touched it, it must be shot through with an arrow and not touched. They begged Moses, “You go talk to Him and find out what He wants from us–we’ll do whatever He says, but please don’t let Him talk to us again lest we die.” The Jews didn’t want that “cross.” They didn’t want to die to themselves. They wanted a law, and so God gave them a law–most of which was delegated to Moses. Hence Jesus said, “Moses gave you a law . . .”
When I read the Sermon on the Mount, these passages you’ve presented, and other places where Jesus enumerates His requirements, I see Jesus pushing His own Hebrew people over the edge. In other words, He’s trying to show them just HOW holy He needs them to be and (THIS IS THE IMPORTANT BIT) how absolutely impossible it is for them to fulfill His requirements. Once upon a time, I fervently avoided reading the Sermon on the Mount because it spoke nothing but condemnation to me. I CANNOT BE THAT PERSON. That’s the point. ONLY Jesus can be that person, and we are in Him. Our place is to submit, to let go of our own “righteousness” which is like stinky, bloody sanitary napkins (filthy rags), and trust completely in HIM to MAKE us righteous. As you realize, WE cannot be righteous on our own. You WILL get to this point, because God is patient and longsuffering (Did you read 1 Cor 13, as I advised you? If not, please DO read it. That’s what God’s love is like.) HE will make you righteous. If you can keep your eyes on Jesus, that’s your job. Stop looking at yourself. Look at Him.
Listening to some sermons, all you hear is condemnation. For YOU, it’s possible that even if the sermon is NOT full of condemnation, you will still hear condemnation because of your OCD and your fearful heart. Of course it’s also possible that the sermon IS full of condemnation. A helluva lot of people (double intender intended here ) do get caught in that legalism trap. Jesus said the letter (of the law) kills, but the Spirit gives life. He said that HIS words are spirit and they are life. IOW, the Law kills because we can neither understand nor fulfill the requirements of the Law. Once we realize and accept that, we are “dead” and ready for the spiritual resurrection that can only come in Christ.
The good news here is that (as Paul said) "Oh wretched man that I am! Who will save me from this body of death? I thank my God, through my Lord Jesus Christ! It is Jesus’ life, death and resurrection that saves us. We do not/cannot/will not/never will save ourselves–but you already figured that out, didn’t you? Are you ready to stop trying to save yourself? To put your hand in the hand of the Master? He will lift you to His shoulders and carry you home into His sheepfold. He will remake you. After all, He said, “Behold I make all new.” I know we translate that “all things,” but “things” isn’t in the original. It’s just all. He makes ALL new. That includes you. Trust Him; follow Him; keep your eyes off yourself and on Him and HE will do this. Let go; stop being afraid and trust Him. The timid and the fearful are already in the Lake of Fire and will stay there until they trust Him. That’s your job; believe on Him (Christ) whom He (the Father) has sent. Period. Just let go and trust Him.