Hi Catherine
It isn’t any of us who will persuade you of this truth - for only the Spirit can do that. But I guess we can do our human best to point you in the right direction!
If you are committed to investigating whether or not UR is true (which I kind of sense that you are), there are plenty of resources and articles available to you that will help. *The Second Death and the Restitution of All Things *by Andrew Jukes is one of the all time classics in this regard (you can find it on the net easily). However, that is a lot of reading (100+ pages). If you want something a bit more succinct, you could try chapter five of our very own Dr Robin Parry’s The Evangelical Universalist (written under the pseudonym Gregory MacDonald). This is one of the best and most scriptural modern defences of UR, and essential reading if you wish to understand the scriptural basis for UR.
But before you even do any of this reading, I would ask you to bear in mind that the Book of Revelation is apocalyptic literature - overtly symbolic, and *notoriously *difficult to exegete and understand. The scriptural argument in favour of UR (and against ECT and annihilation) is complex, and is built up from a holistic examination of the whole Biblical meta-narrative. Of course, there are specific verses which, taken at face value, seem to teach either ECT or annihilation. But there are just as many which point the other way, towards UR. The point is that we cannot arbitrate on the issue purely by ‘prooftexting’ - and certainly not be prooftexting from difficult and highly symbolic books such as Revelation.
But I would just give you one piece of plain scriptural ‘advice’, if I may. Jesus did not come to save us from “remaining dead”, nor from a “fate worse than death”. Matthew 1:21 spells it out for us, plain as day:
"She will give birth to a son, and you are to give him the name Jesus, because he will save his people from their sins.” (my emphasis)
Once you see the truth of this; once you realise that it never has been about being saved from death or hell or the consequence of sin, but from sin itself - UR is just around the corner. Personally I have no doubt that you will turn that corner, in your and in the Spirit’s own good time.
All the best
Johnny