Crap… I had a nice chewy comment written up, and I thought I had posted it, but I had only previewed it when the phone rang here at the office. (Previews look like posts, when they’re at least a screen-length–long enough to push down the composition window beyond view.)
More shortly, though (since I’ve already now spent most of my limited time writing a vanished reply… sigh ):
1.) I agree with James, even more emphatically, and especially in regard to the importance of orthodox trinitarianism to universal reconciliation (which I talk about at some technical length here.)
2.) That being said, doctrinally serious unitarians have a lot more going in their favor than many other options (especially compared to doctrinally unserious anyone. )
3.) That being said: at the end of the day, Christ doesn’t judge us according to how doctrinally awesome we are. It’s better to be involved with (even if not in technical communion with) a church that’s doing great at being sheep and not goats; at cultivating the fruits of the Holy Spirit; at penitently seeking God’s salvation from their sins and from their sinning; at loving their neighbor (and especially at loving the ones they’re currently opposed to); at giving all of whatever they’ve been given to give; and at seeking the fair-togetherness of God–than to be involved with a church which currently stinks at doing such things (even if they happen to be nominally ‘correct’ about doctrine. Which in my experience they probably won’t be, even though they may be trying to be in some hateful fashion.)
4.) That being said: obviously all those things I mentioned back under point (3) are doctrinal positions, too. So one way or another, there can easily come to be a point where there’s too much friction between belief. Which leads to fraction and schism; which is heartbreaking. (Also the main reason why St. Paul warns against marrying people of other beliefs–it’s likely to kill the stronger ‘ox’ of the pair! Then again, that’s what Jesus specifically did for us, even using the same analogy once inviting that relationship with us; so it can’t be intrinsically bad. Just likely to end up with the stronger ox being scourged and crucified to death, analogically or literally. Count the cost, etc.)
5.) That having been said: if you have no problem with their beliefs and they have no problem with yours, then by tautology there’s going to be fewer problems all around! I do not recommend simply dissing the importance of correct beliefs, in principle, in order to achieve this reduction in problems; but, as noted earlier, Christ doesn’t judge us by how doctrinally awesome we are. He judges us by grace–by His own grace primarily but also by what we do with the grace we have been given to give. (As He says once in GosLuke: “Freely given, you have received; be giving, freely given.” )
Yay, I reconstructed the gist of my lost letter after all! Woot!
Whew, back to ‘work’ work…