Same-sex relationships create “many types of hell” that you see “every day”? Of course, that’s vague and inconsistent with the experiences of many other people.
Also, I’m not sure why you’re bringing up getting AIDS on purpose, rape, pornography, etc. The topic is whether same-sex relationships are ever morally permissible.
I’m a member of the Gay Christian Network (gaychristian.net), where there are widely varying views on all sorts of topics, including this one. Some people are on Side A, which means they believe that God approves of same-sex intimacy as much as he approves of opposite-sex intimacy (with actual sex allowed at least within the context of a life-long relationship). Other people are Side B, which means they believe that all gays are called to celibacy; they believe that same-sex eroticism is always wrong. Other people are unsure. Many of the members are straight. Many are gay. Many are bisexual. Many are unsure.
Here’s a more precise way of looking at the question:
Opposite-sex pairs have sex because it strengthens and expresses their emotional bonds (when emotional bonds are present).
Opposite-sex pairs also have sex without much of an emotional bond simply because sex is, in a word, amazing: It’s very pleasurable/ enjoyable and reduces anxiety and depression.
1 and 2 also apply to same-sex pairs.
Sex is important for most (or at least many) people, and understandably so. We crave sex physically and psychologically, and we’re supposed to crave sex. Sex isn’t dirty. And not just “sex” (i.e. not just penetration), but also the whole spectrum of sexuality and intimacy: Hanging out with people that give us gut-butterflies, holding hands, kissing, cuddling, caressing, and yes… genital stimulation and orgasms.
I feel like some Side-A folks sometimes downplay the importance of sexuality/intimacy to avoid looking like sex-obsessed deviants. But it’s simple: The importance of sexuality among heterosexuals and opposite-sex pairs is akin to the importance of it among homosexuals and same-sex pairs. Most OS-relationships need at least some sexuality to keep both persons happy, and ditto for SS-relationships.
Yes, some people can have happy lives even while they’re committed to celibacy. But others can’t, and there’s no shame in that. In my opinion, celibacy is not ideal or healthy for everybody. As a Side-A person, I believe that God approves of sexuality among same-sex couples, at least in the case of life-long (i.e. married) couples.
*You may be wondering how people can be Side A and Christian. ** Earlier I recommended three reading materials on that question. I’ll mention them again now:
First, the 2008 book “Thou Shalt Not Love” by the anthropologist Patrick Chapman:
amazon.com/Thou-Shalt-Not-Lo … 0971468621
Second, the following essay by the founder of GCN: gaychristian.net/justins_view.php
Third, the 2003 book “A Question of Truth” by the (now-deceased) Dominican Priest Gareth Moore: amazon.com/Question-Truth-Ho … 0826459498
Aside from those, I’ve written a few essays on the topic. Here’s my essay on Romans 1: tacoseasoning.blogspot.com/2010/ … iting.html
(I don’t remember how to put links in the texts! haha)
P.S * Many GCN members wonder how people can be both Christian and Universalists! GCN members often make the standard one-liner objections to Universalism without delving into much depth. And some people here have made standard objections to same-sex relationships without going into much depth. I encourage members of both sites to explore the other site as well.