Craig,
You might find this article interesting in terms of better understanding that Calvinist reasoning: calvinistcorner.com/god-desires-all-saved I think the author does a good job of articulating that viewpoint. I find the reasoning convoluted, and I guess the author realizes that as well since he closes with, “God is not simplistic. He has a divine plan that we must truly seek to fathom if we are to rightly understand His word.”
Basically the argument is that God’s desires are not always achieved, ie: God desires people to be righteous, but they choose to sin, etc. So while God does not cause people to sin or tempt them, He “makes room” in His plan for man’s sin, and “hardens” people, and hides the truth from people by speaking in parables, so that He can use the sinfulness of men to achieve His purposes. So while the “desire” of God for the individual to be righteous may be thwarted, it all fits into His purpose. The overarching plan of God which will not be thwarted is the salvation of the elect and the demonstration of His character (in all it’s aspects) and His glory.
So the question to discuss, I guess, is what really is the plan of God? Is it only the salvation of an elect, or does it go beyond that? Is it really God’s desire to save all, or is that just an idle “wish” that is subservient to His real plan? I would argue that it is the salvation of an elect in this age, and the salvation of all in the coming ages.
I think one of the (several) flaws in the author’s argument – that God’s desires are not always met – is a failure to distinguish between what God desires us to do, and what God desires Himself to do. He argues that man does not always carry out God’s desire. And my answer is that God always does what He desires. Within a Calvinist framework, salvation is the providence of God. Christ died to save the elect – those who God desires to save – and He will achieve His purpose. God’s desire for all people to be saved is a goal that lies within God’s domain of action, not man’s, because salvation is of God, not of the will of man.
The author is treating this passage (I Tim 2:4) as if it said, “God desired that everyone would not choose sin.” (but they did, so He’s going to avail himself of this opportunity to demonstrate His justice and wrath – and He wanted them to and planned for them to – but He didn’t force them to.) Or perhaps as: “God wishes they didn’t have to go to Hell” (but they do have to for the greater purposes of the demonstration of the horribleness of sin and the righteous anger of God against sinners.)
So, as I said above, I’d think the primary question would be to determine the plan of God according to the scriptures.
Sonia