Richard, I think you’re right on the money that for a lot of people who believe firmly in ECT it’s really more about God’s power then it is about God’s love… that and a tendency to say ‘it must be good because God is good’ with no questions asked…
For me though, when I believed, albeit halfheartedly, in ECT (though I usually thought of it from a more Arminian or ‘Lewisian’ standpoint), up until about six months ago, I think it was really more about fear and because ‘everyone else believed it’, and because my church taught it, and because that’s what the Bible seemed to be saying at the time…
I didn’t want to believe it was true, but tried to accept it because I felt like I had to and had no other choice, even though it drove me crazy at times and made it more difficult for me to trust God whenever I seriously thought about it…
So I think those who believe in ECT fall onto a spectrum… on one side, there are those who are really firm about it and relatively okay with it (and my guess is they tend to be more Calvinistic in their thinking), and on the other side, there are those who, like I was myself, are really not okay with it and wrestle with it a lot but don’t feel like they are allowed to throw it out (and my guess is they tend to be more Arminian in their thinking)… in between you have all kinds of variations; Calvinists, like Jaxxen here on the forum, who have wrestled with this in some way and are sympathetic towards those who also have wrestled with it, even though they accept it themselves, at least intellectually and theologically; Arminians who are pretty much okay with it, even though they may focus on God’s love in their every day conversation and teaching… there are people who obsess about it, and people who compartmentalize it and don’t really think about it…
So I think everyone is different, in how they may hold or react to or process this doctrine…
And I agree that probably the best way to talk about this with anyone is to appeal to their conscience… although when it comes right down to it, it’s between them and God…
I believe that God opened my eyes to this, and that it wasn’t a matter of my being any smarter or wiser than anyone else… I believe it was just grace (and, at least in my case, an answer to many agonizing prayers), that it was a gradual revelation from God… and I believe that it’s much the same with everyone else who comes to see this. It’s a work of God’s Spirit in someone’s heart (like you said, it’s more of a heart issue then a head issue) more than anything else.
And what you said at the end does make sense, about how people who believe in ECT and people who believe in UR both do the same thing pretty much when they read the Bible, just it’s from opposite sides.
But I do think that UR has this advantage over ECT, as far as biblically… more than anything, throughout all of Scripture, and especially the New Testament, love seems to be the focus…
Jesus said it summed up the Law and the Prophets, and Paul said to the Corinthians ‘and these three remain: faith, hope, and love, but the greatest of these is love’, and John said that ‘God is love’… there is that sense that from the Bible’s perspective, rather then saying, as you mentioned, God’s power is love, you could say, instead, that God’s love is power… that love is the most powerful force in the universe, that ‘love is stronger than death’, that love, like Philip Yancey once pointed out, ‘is the only power that can conquer the human heart’, that love is what God is really all about…
Of course this all depends on one’s definition of love, but I think the Bible makes God’s definition of love (forgiveness, mercy, compassion, grace, etc.) pretty clear in a lot of places, Corinthians 13 being one example, and I think when someone really looks deeply into this, what love really is, and gets a feel from the Bible of what the love of God looks like, especially when looking at the life and death and resurrection of Jesus, then, at least in my opinion, ECT doesn’t really gel very well with it… it just doesn’t make much sense.
This is why I think so many who assent to the doctrine of ECT admit that it is hard to understand, and they admit that they don’t particularly like it or that it saddens them… I believe that most people who believe in this doctrine don’t believe in it because it makes a lot of sense to them, or because they particularly relish the concept, but do so for other reasons…
I think a part of this, for some, is the fear of questioning God about things, and of rejecting traditional views, and especially when the majority appears to hold those views… and another part of this, for some, is pride, or even callousness, that ‘at least we’re in’ attitude, and that ‘well, they’re just bad people, so who really cares what happens to them?’ attitude… and such fear or pride is rarely admitted to or talked about…
But like I said, everyone is different, so…
But anyone, just wanted to throw in my two cents on this.
Blessings to you
Matt