I dunno, Dave. When you’re in the middle of it, that kind of help hurts like hell. Once you’re through it (for a few minutes, hours, days, whatever), you see the gain of it, but personally, I dread to be given any more of such blessings. Lucky for us, I suppose, we don’t get asked. Once we place ourselves in His hands (or even if we don’t), He’ll do whatever it takes to bring us to maturity and perfection. I apparently have a long way to go, but I guess we all do.
It always feels better when it stops hurting. You’d think it wouldn’t really. You’d think the memory of pain would destroy joy, but it doesn’t. Once the pain is gone, it’s gone and it simply doesn’t matter any more. Only the benefit remains. (Until the next time of course, but let’s not think about THAT!)
I’m not sure our pain is always for our own benefit though. (Although I do believe we are benefited whether we are the primary object or not.) Sometimes it may be we suffer pain for the sake of others. That makes it better, I think. If we think of the pain as always being allowed for the purpose of maturing US, then it becomes all about us (which isn’t always very mature). We could also develop a false guilt and a hopelessness to think that whatever we do, however hard we try to follow Him, it will never begin to approach our Father’s approval. True we will always have miles to go, but I don’t think it’s a true picture of Him to think He’s a parent who cannot be pleased with our toddler efforts.
Thinking of all our trials as being presented to us for our own correction – could that foster a false guilt sometimes? Paul said something about his sufferings completing the sufferings of Christ for His body, the ekklesia. I think maybe suffering could be more easily borne if we could sometimes see that it will help someone else.
It’s difficult to see, though, how the suffering of a child being abused could be a justifiable way to bring her to maturity. It seems to me that this suffering could only serve to hamper her way and cause her not only pain but actual damage – spiritually, mentally, emotionally and physically. In the long run, after healing and recovery, maybe having gone though horrible things will make her a more compassionate, loving and wise person than she could have been had she never suffered in that way. But isn’t it true that such a strength is only necessary to help others who are also suffering? – and how can that be justified? If no children were abused, then no abuse survivors would be needed to comfort and help to heal them. Could it be that the abused child’s pain somehow helps the abuser? Helps him to come to the realization of his own depravity and his need for a new heart? I think that’s plausible, especially given an evolutionary framework in which we’re all struggling to rise above the beast mentality (or should be struggling to achieve that).
(Sorry for my rambling – I’m trying to figure this out.)
Jason points out in his Sword to the Heart that we may also suffer for the benefit of rebel angels. Now THAT’S a heck of a thought. I’m not sure how I feel about it. My natural bent wants to ask, “Who would ever imagine that THEY would be awakened to their guilt, by our sufferings arousing an inkling of the horror of their deeds? Why would they care? Why would they ever begin to care?” But then I know practically nothing of angels, fallen or otherwise. I do believe they’ll be redeemed, but that’s only (as it seems to me) the logical conclusion of the scriptures. I can’t honestly and truly say that I give a fig about rebel angels. If Father wills that we endure suffering for their sakes, then I submit to that for His sake (not that I have much of a choice), but I have a hard time working up any compassion for rebel angels. They’re just not on my radar, and I’ve only ever seen them portrayed as irredeemably wicked and callous. Still, it would explain a lot. Jesus is the sacrificial Lamb for humanity and the ekklesia (ultimately all of humanity?) is His body. Could it be we’re the ones to redeem the lost “sons of God”? Are we the 'scape goat, the sacrificial lamb for them? I would think that would entail us being willing, but maybe in Christ we are willing enough. He’s the head, and it’s the head that matters I suppose. When we’re all finally joined in Him, will willingness spread back through all human history? P’rhaps it will. I don’t know, but looking at the behavior of quantum particles/waves, it could fit.
It’s all got to work together. All these things are necessary for creation to be completed, maybe – for all the creatures of God to be one in Him. The birth pangs Paul talks about in Romans 8 ARE pangs. When you’re in the midst of them you think you can’t possibly endure them a moment longer, but since you have no choice, you do endure them. (Well, I did anyway – epidurals weren’t as popular back then.) Right now I could do with an epidural (and I think I might just accept one if offered) but as GMac says, it behooves us to trust our Father as knowing best. We have ground to travel and it’s as good to run straight ahead as to creep along hoping to avoid any large concentrations of difficulty. It comes out the same in the end. What we’ve got to get through has got to be got through, and we will get through it. When the child is born, we’ll forget all the anguish for joy.
Jesus “learned obedience by the things He suffered,” and He was never disobedient in any degree. Perhaps we don’t truly learn until we’ve had opposition and difficulty, and gotten through without compromising the things we know to be good and true. It’s easy to hold the fort when no one’s storming it. Ultimately, I suppose that some degree at least of suffering is necessary to our developing a sense of person-hood at all. A higher degree, perhaps, is required for a higher character. If we want to be among the good and noble, courageous and true, we probably had better prepare to suffer because maybe that’s the only way that can ever happen.
If it makes any sense, then that’s a wonder, since you’re reading my inner musings. My brain is sometimes a scary place – also messy and cluttered. Feel free to point out incoherency – I’m sure there’s some here somewhere.
Love, Cindy