Jason
I offer you an unreserved apology for throwing unwarranted, unfair and untrue accusations at you, particularly that of homophobia, which I retract with shame. I was angry and upset, but nothing excuses such unkindness and unfairness to a brother in Christ (or to anybody, actually) – one whom, I might add, I have always respected and liked.
This debate, such as it is, has very quickly spiralled out of control, to a place where it does nobody any credit – least of all me. The last thing I want to do is to throw further fuel onto the fire, or drag the forum, and with it the glorious truth of EU, any further through the mud. So it is indeed time for me to pick up my chips and find another game. But I feel it would be wrong of me to do so without at least explaining why. So here goes.
My hope has always been (and I know this hope is shared with others here) that one day we will live in a world where people’s sexual orientation is no more an issue than the colour of their hair. We will all be ‘judged’ not by who we love, but by how we love – or don’t love. I had hoped that this forum would be a place where that might happen now, a kind of microcosmic precursor of that better world to come.
But it seems this is not to be. For me the ‘facts’ of the situation are very clear. The Bible is first and foremost a signpost to the Living Word, which is Jesus. Everything God truly is is shown to us in Jesus - who befriended sinners, healed the sick, showed love and compassion to outsiders and the poor and the oppressed, and who never spoke one single recorded word against same sex relationships. For Jesus - and hence for God - being gay simply isn’t an issue. (In fact, there is a view that Jesus actually tacitly endorsed same sex relationships by healing the Centurion’s ‘slave’, who scholars believe was likely to have been his lover, but I wouldn’t press that.)
I see the Bible as a faithful and accurate record of the life and teachings of Jesus, plus a whole bunch of other stuff thrown in - history, myth, poetry, prophecy, legislation, romance, the works. All written by human beings, some of it wonderful and good and literally true, some of it wonderful and good and embodying truth that can only be expressed through story. And then some stuff which is either just plain wrong, or downright hateful crap which reflects the failings of the human beings who wrote it. It doesn’t matter that many of those men and women were very ‘godly’ like Moses or St Paul. Even the godliest of men get it wrong sometimes, have their own faults and prejudices. And some of those faults and prejudices have made it into the Bible – because faulty human beings were the only medium God had to work with. And he patently worked with and through some very faulty people, as we all know.
So what we have to do is apply the truth we know about God as revealed in Jesus to our reading of the Bible. And whenever there is a conflict between that and what the Bible actually says - or appears to say - Jesus trumps the Bible every time. So it is with sexual orientation and practice. There are a tiny handful of verses which appear to teach against same sex relationships. Most of these, when translated and understood correctly, probably don’t actually condemn loving same sex relationships. But even if they did, they would still be trumped by Jesus – in a similar way to how the stuff about God commanding genocide or stoning adulterers to death is trumped by Jesus.
And so it is my firm belief that there is no reason for any follower of Christ to be ‘anti-gay’, to not embrace full, unequivocal equality for all people regardless of where they are on the spectrum of sexual orientation and practice – none, that is, except their own personal negative feelings. Why some of us have those feelings, and whether we can change them, are questions we could and should look to answer. Personally I suspect there is very likely some evolutionary genetic component to all this negativity about gay relationships, in particular male gay relationships, but like you said in your last post this could and should be fought against, as we should fight against other instinctual drives which may lead us to act in contravention of the moral code.
It seems that my belief is not shared by most people on this forum. If both the overt opposition to full equality for LGBT people, combined with the deafening silence of the majority, is any measure of the general consensus, then I am in a very small minority. That makes me very sad. It makes me very sad that I don’t feel I can invite my gay brother here to learn something about the glorious doctrine of UR and be sure that he will feel welcome. I know that there have been gay people who have felt that way themselves.
The point has been made that some of the things I have said might well create a similar situation for Calvinists. So be it. There is simply no escaping the hatefulness of Calvinist dogma. But even the most vocal opponent of full sexual equality would concede that the two issues are of an entirely different order. And of course, as JaelSister has pointed out, there is no parallel here, because – and I acknowledge what you say on the matter, without necessarily agreeing with you, at least not in full – Calvinism is a belief system, something we choose to embrace or (hopefully) reject. Our sexuality is part of us – a vital, essential part of us. And we do not choose it – nor should we wish to, or ever feel like we ought to wish to.
All the best
Johnny