Please also keep in mind that our rules about demonizing other people’s beliefs have to apply to everyone, or else we’re only being hypocritical if we ask non-universalist members to tamp down on calling us intentional deceivers serving Satan (and then take steps when they refuse to tamp down on this), while allowing universalist members free reign to accuse non-universalists of worshiping and/or promoting Moloch through dishonest beliefs.
Those rules weren’t put in place because we’re not “courageous” (and therefore cowards). They were put in place by the site owners because they wanted a site where non-universalists could feel safe coming here to dispute with us soberly on these issues.
Universalists naturally want to feel safe from being oppressed by non-universalists here for our beliefs, and that’s understandable, but what am I supposed to do when people like “True Disciple” show up to spit their hatred in our direction? If I ask him to stop while allowing other people to do the same thing back in his direction–or in the direction of the Calvinist who showed up in that thread asking (the Arminian) TD to tone it down for our sakes–then I’m merely being an ideologue using my power to suppress dissent from people I don’t agree with.
And how was Jaxxen, someone who unlike TD was capable of sober and serious discussion, rewarded for standing up for us? He was accused of intentionally (if perhaps self-)deceptive worship of and service for a horrible demon. Just like TD had accused us. Which Jaxxen had defended us against.
Jaxxen has every good reason to leave our forum and never come back. Which of my Calvinist friends, or the Calv friends of some of the other members here, will take our forum seriously, or feel at all comfortable trying to respectfully discuss and work our our differences here?! Sure, my Arminian friends and family and acquaintances might be willing to chime in with a “preach it, brother”, when Calvs are the ones being hung on the cross to have refuse thrown at them; but we’re supposed to be reconciling both sides of a broken soteriology with one another.
I am outright EMBARRASSED at the thought of ever telling the Calvinistic friends of my brother’s family that I am an administrator and guest author at the Evangelical Universalist forum. Because God forbid, they might actually take a few minutes to look it up for themselves, and then utterly shut out any possibility of taking me seriously in my beliefs again, for supporting such a place.
sigh
And what would my most beloved think, who isn’t even a Christian at all, if she (God forbid) came on this forum and found my own side pissing in the mouths of fellow Christians? We’re no better than those other people she rejects! At best she’d be sad and confused as to why I was supporting this site, and would secretly wonder whether I myself was no better after all than she had thought I was.
[Edited to add since there was misunderstanding on this later: that strong way of putting it was my expected description of how [u]SHE WOULD SEE IT. My way of putting it was “hanging them on a cross to throw refuse at them”. Once upon a time that was how a bunch of people thought traitors to God should be punished. People who regard Calvinists as willfully participating in worse than Moloch worship must be regarding them as fundamental traitors to God. True, the chief priests and Pharisees might not be hurling trash at the traitors hanging on the cross, but their expressions of rejection amount to the same thing. That they wouldn’t normally by their own principles agree to hanging criminals on a tree, only shows how much they think it’s important to hang the current criminal by contrast.]
Sure, being awesomely charitable she’d understand the technical distinctions involved, that people here are upset because other people are willing to abandon some people to never-ending misery or annihilation. She’d understand and sympathize and even agree with our feelings about that. But then she’d see how we put our beliefs into practice: not by doing our best to reconcile with people who have sinned against us (doctrinally speaking or more directly), but by doing our best to drive such people away from reconciliation, by actively insulting them with what we believe to be the truth about them–no different from the behavior we reject when it’s aimed at us by the TDs of the world.
We aren’t doing to others as we would have them do to us.
She would think we aren’t real live Christians after all.
Please brothers: I know there are strong feelings involved in this, and I know it’s possible to work out the logic in such a direction – I think I can say with some assurance that I am one of the few people on this forum, perhaps the only person (I can’t think of any other), who goes to some time and effort promoting and defending the idea that Christ was seriously threatening strong punishments to followers of His who embraced the concept of hopeless punishment. But that is a hugely incendiary position to take, and so I try to present it in as acceptable a manner as I can, such as by making it a self-critical test, or expecting that those who technically but sorrowfully accept it will be exempted. Even Christ didn’t make it altogether explicit (which is why proponents of hopeless punishment have ironically tended to take those statements and apply them hopelessly to those-people-over-there!)
But these are things that people need to come to conclusion about themselves, ideally in regard to themselves, not in judgment against other people. Such judgments might also be accepted coming from people they regard as being in rightful authority over them–just as we ideally ought to be willing to accept the judgment of God against us if we have somehow been involved in promoting a hellishly twisted notion of God. But presuming for sake of argument that was true, how many of the people here would take seriously such accusations against you from strangers whom you regard as having no authority over you?!
If this was a private backchannel on Yahoo with only a select invited group, we wouldn’t have a public image to hurt by indulging in a good screed of frustration at what those-heathen-people-over-there-are-really-worshiping. If the forum had been set up for the purpose of indulging in such invective, maybe the forum would have no public image to hurt that way either (although the cause of Christian Universalism itself would I think be hurt by the existence of such a forum. Which I would not accept taking part in, by the way.)
But this isn’t a private backchannel forum, and it was set up to reach out to those who are different from us, from whose ranks almost all of us have come.
Please don’t stab the hands of those who dare to reach back to us.