Raising Hell, Part 2: Love Never Fails – Chapter 8: Love Never Fails for Children
I love the verse Julie heads this chapter with: “Can a mother forget the baby at her breast and have no compassion on the child she has borne? Though she may forget, I will not forget you!” –Isaiah 49:15
Julie argues in this chapter that we can understand God’s love for His children – the human race – by looking at the love of human parents for our children. She asks, “Does God ask earthly parents to do what He Himself is unable or unwilling to do?”
As human parents, we use corrective and restorative punishment with our children. There’s nothing our children could do that would make us (assuming we are normal, loving, stable people) stop loving them, give them overly harsh punishment, or never ending punishment.
Julie writes, "If God is truly the perfect Parent who supposedly loves and longs to be intimately connected to all of His children—His very own offspring—is it really possible that He is going to throw most of them away or lock them away in a fiery dungeon? Wouldn’t that suggest that I have more love than God does? God says His love is unfailing, patient, and never ceasing, but if in fact it does fail and cease for most of His children, that would make Him nothing more than a liar.
“God is no liar; He IS love and all His children since the creation of mankind are a continued expression of that love. Our opportunity to participate in parenting was so that we could more fully understand His unfailing love for and His attachment to each and every one of us.”
Julie lists some of the characteristics of loving parents:
*]Loving parents only intend good for their children. Julie quotes Thomas Wittemore who wrote that to say that God created some of His creatures knowing that they would be miserable forever is “to charge Him with the utmost malignity.”/*]
*]Loving parents make sure the punishment fits the crime. We don't wish an eternity of hell on our children because of a season of rebellion./*]
*]Loving parents understand that there are factors behind disobedience. We offer understanding and help when we know there are conditions affecting our child's behavior: pain, exhaustion, others' mistakes, disabilities, imbalances, illness, etc. How much more must God be able to understand and help His children overcome?/*]
*]Loving parents demonstrate fair and consistent character. We try to treat all our children with equal love and fairness, showing no favoritism. Julie tells a real life “Cinderella” type story about a boy who was singled out by his mother for harsh treatment, while his siblings were given every comfort, and compares that to how mainstream Christianity presents God to the world. This particularly brings to my mind the Calvinist picture of a God who arbitrarily picks some of His children to love and demonstrate His goodness to, and others of His children to show wrath and judgment to./*]
*]Loving parents ultimately long to be restored in relationship. This is our goal in disciplining our rebellious children. Julie quotes Thomas Talbott writing in The Inescapable Love of God, “So what, specifically, does perfect justice require? What sort of thing would make up for, or cancel out sin? If we accept the Christian view, according to which sin is anything that separates us from God and from each other, then the answer to our question is clear: Perfect justice requires reconciliation and restoration.”/*]
*]Loving parents never give up. If we human parents would never set a time limit on our children's repentance, why should we think that God draws a line of no return at our physical death?/*]
Some will object that God’s Fatherhood only applies to believers, but Julie rightfully points out that the scriptures teach that all people have come from God through Christ, who is called “the first born of all creation” in Col 1:15. (You can also see: Rom 11:36, Eph 3:14-15, Heb 2:10, Heb 11:3)
I also imagine people objecting that it is not right for us to use our experience as parents and children to interpret God’s behavior. But I’d like to point out that Jesus makes a similar appeal in Matt 7:11, talking about asking and receiving from God, “If you, being evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in Heaven give to those who ask Him.” In this case, God’s ways are higher than ours in that His ideal of goodness is much more good than ours.
Julie says that the reason God gave us our own offspring was so that we could understand how we come from Him and our value to Him. This is evidenced simply by the fact that He teaches us to call Him our “Father.” We could not understand what that meant if He had not given us the relationships on earth.
Julie concludes this chapter writing: “Jesus always esteemed children because He came to show the heart of the Father toward His children. A true father’s love cannot be earned, and it cannot be done away with. Just as we would never give up on our children, God will never give up on His children; His love will not fail them.”
Next up, Chapter 9: Love Never Fails the Helpless and the Hopeless