Though it may invite controversy that shouldn’t be pursued on this thread, I completed “The Triumph of Love: Same-Sex Marriage and the Christian Love Ethic” by published universalist and philosopher, Dr. Eric Reitan. Here is the review I submitted to Amazon:
"Eric Reitan presents a well reasoned and more than thorough case for supporting same-sex marriage in light of core Christian values. He presses the need to be able to honestly wrestle, and be able to differ in a loving way about such a controversial issue. And he generously evaluates classic arguments against it, including negative Bible texts, arguments that it is unnatural, and that it is a slippery slope to accepting other problematic unions.
But most pivotal for Reitan is the New Testament consensus that “Love does no harm to a neighbor. Therefore love is the fulfillment of the law” (Romans 13:10). It’s not only that “God is love” (1 John 4:8), and that “the entire law is fulfilled in keeping this one command: “Love your neighbor as yourself”) Gal. 5:14), but that Jesus concludes, “All the Law and Prophets (the Scripture) hang” on such love (Matthew 22:40).
This leads Reitan to ask what God’s will as a love that seeks others’ good would mean for those whose drive for romantic intimacy is profoundly homosexual. And he argues that caring to evaluate this means that we cannot bypass knowing and examining the actual experiences of those whose deepest instincts are toward such intimacy. Especially when they repeatedly face the message that that this is condemned as an affront to God, with no acceptable expression.
He cites St. Paul’s reasoning that the option of lifelong monogamy is vital for the welfare of heterosexuals lacking the gift of celibacy. And examining the known results, he observes that opposing a similar fidelity for homosexuals reinforces endless guilt about failure to change, hiding a key part of their identity, and/or momentary relief in promiscuous patterns of meaningless sexual encounters. But we observe that when the option of a committed monogamous union is encouraged, many experience a much healthier and loving life.
Thus for Reitan, there is no contest about which option produces better fruit, and which has any benefits outweighed by more destructive harm. And to be candid, as one who long has been stunned at how united all the apostles were that love is the enduring “Royal Law” which matters above all, I found Reitan’s approach highly convincing, and I would richly commend his volume to anyone who is wrestling with this challenging issue."