I’m just saying the wrath of God is not bad. Our natural mind sees it as death, look at even the word judgement sometimes translated condemnation. We’ve for so many years assumed its ET, or physical punishment. But it means simply to make a judgement. The great white throne is white, not black. All His judgements are just. My favorite views on Gods wrath are
Zeph 3: 8,9
Therefore wait for me,” declares the LORD,
“for the day I will stand up to testify.a
I have decided to assemble the nations,
to gather the kingdoms
and to pour out my wrath on them—
all my fierce anger.
The whole world will be consumed
by the fire of my jealous anger.
9“Then will I purify the lips of the peoples,
that all of them may call on the name of the LORD
and serve him shoulder to shoulder.
Isa 25
On this mountain the LORD Almighty will prepare (on this mountain is where He executes His judgement)
a feast of rich food for all peoples,
a banquet of aged wine—
the best of meats and the finest of wines.
7On this mountain he will destroy
the shroud that enfolds all peoples,
the sheet that covers all nations;
8he will swallow up death forever.
The Sovereign LORD will wipe away the tears
from all faces;
he will remove the disgrace of his people
from all the earth.
The LORD has spoken.
9In that day they will say,
“Surely this is our God;
we trusted in him, and he saved us.
This is the LORD, we trusted in him;
let us rejoice and be glad in his salvation.”
I’m sorry if I’m not answering your question correctly. I’m not saying it may not hurt some, but it hurts so good. And just like in childbirth you have such a wonderful thing afterwards that any pain is overshadowed by joy.