Lotharson,
You have many wise and thoughtful companions in your conditionalism. Certainly conditionalism is better then ECT, but it’s a sad sort of a thing, really. Think about your beloved child who may have gone astray. Doubtless you would choose death for her over unending torture, but OH! If she could but live and be a loving and healed child of the Father with you! Wouldn’t your heart YEARN for that! The thing is, there is no incompatibility between universal reconciliation and free will. It is only a matter of time.
I do NOT say that Father tortures His creatures into eventual submission to His “love.” That would be an incoherent position to take. THAT would NOT be love either on His part or on the part of the one who finally yields. But we all have those things in us that do torment us, and they have nothing to do with God (which is probably why they hurt us so). Given enough time (and Father has all He wants), given complete sanity, given all the information needed and the conviction of its truth, given the Father’s persistent love and wooing and His intimate knowledge of the hearts of each and every one of His creatures and His persistent desire and will that all should be saved, it seems to me impossible that a human being in misery COULD continue to refuse to come into the warm house full of fellowship and food and joy and song. Eventually he will let go his pride and his fear – he’ll HAVE to. Nothing is keeping him from walking over that threshold and into the family but his own sorrow. Eventually he will come, face his shame, and be healed. It makes no sense to think that he could hold out for all eternity, imo. But even if you think a human COULD hold out forever, nevertheless God who never changes, will never cease in mercifully (his mercies never come to an end) wooing him – which would yield at least a hopeful universalism.
Now I fully understand that conditionalists believe the life of a man is completely dependent on God. If God withdraws life from him, he will die and be no more. BUT I AGREE with you. Extend that. We are alive now by His gift alone. That isn’t going to change just because we’ve physically died and have entered the next phase of our journeys. If we are alive then, it will also be because of His sustaining hand. Conditional immortality isn’t an issue at all. God gives life to all who live, continually. Knowing that we are not in and of ourselves immortal has no bearing on the fate of the lost after physical death.
Someone here on the forum used the analogy of Ol’ Yaller. If you haven’t seen the movie or read the book, it’s about the family dog who, in an act of heroism, is bitten and becomes rabid. Since they cannot heal him, they do the best they can do for him – they kill him. It’s all very sad and heartbreaking as you acknowledge the choice as the only right and loving thing to do for the dog and for the family. It was the best available answer, but not a truly good answer. If they could have healed him, they would have to, or be an evil, unloving family.
What about Father? Should He ever give up on those He loves? Is he really incapable of wooing them as He has wooed us? Is hell locked on the inside? Jesus has the keys! Is the will stubborn and unyielding? The heart of the king is in the hand of the Lord as the rivers of waters; He turns it wherever He will. Is the sinner a prison of his own delusions and diseased thought processes? He sent His word and healed them and delivered them from all their diseases. Is He destroyed for lack of knowledge? Listen to Me (Wisdom) oh foolish one and become wise. Is his heart stone? I will put in them a heart of flesh. All your children will be taught of God and great shall be the peace of your children. No longer will a man say to his neighbor, “Know the Lord,” for all shall know Me.
If the best God could do for His lost ones was to destroy them, He would be a weak and ineffective and ungodlike god. But He CAN heal those whom He loves, and He will.
Love, Cindy