Cole,
I for the most part agree with the others, that God the Father’s essence is love and everything else refers to attributes coming from His essence. Yet, I can sympathize with you in considering the Father as you do. Because for many years from the time I was led to say yes to His Son Jesus, I have struggled with the problem of evil and a loving God. All the examples you gave were in of themselves terrifying to me; disciplining children, destroying the inhabitance of earth with a flood, sending the unbeliever to an eternal torture and etc. What finally got me on track to seeing God has a God of love as His primary essence and extending this love to us as sons and daughters as His chief work, was through the eyes of universal reconciliation and the finish work of the cross. All the things that happen in nature be they floods, earthquakes, epidemics and etc., are all under the auspice of God as “second causes” (due to the Fall). Certainly this is the case, when God uses evil men to bring judgment upon a nation and people of his own like what is written in Habakkuk and the Chaldeans as His tool. God can also be the “first cause “as with His Son Jesus the Christ, “slain before the foundation of the earth” , “smitten by God”; In order that we His children can have life forever. Without evil as a background and a contrast, we would not understand mercy, love, goodness and holiness. In fact Satan himself, in my understanding was created the way he is, by God as the ultimate instrument of His disposal (“a murderer and a liar from the beginning”). I believe the insidiousness of man’s sin grows exponentially with or without Satan’s help since the Garden’s rebellion, but God will still use this unabridged evil for His glory. This happens with the total reconciliation of mankind, and victory over death and sin. This has been my only solace to all the examples you have given that in your estimation makes God the Father a “monster”.
Grace, George