Grace is forgiveness… where we are forgiven of things we don’t deserve forgiveness of. Religiosity is where we first have to do certain things to attain the forgiveness of things we don’t deserve forgiveness of.
True faith is to believe that God accepts all. Misguided faith is the faith that says… my personal faith as a requirement I’ve met grants me grace, forgiveness and acceptance — it’s the mindset that turns faith into a requirement… that’s religianity — that’s death.
Gracious forgiveness is in no way controlled by nor dependent upon a personal relationship for such to be true, effective and unilaterally dispensable. True forgiveness in the heart of an aggrieved party can by one’s own choice be given… regardless of the offender’s position on the matter.
Have you never seen a TV report where an aggrieved party of a murdered loved one somewhere in their heartbrokenness finds the graciousness to release forgiveness towards the assailant? I for one can in nowise sit in self-righteous judgement and declare the aggrieved party has not truly forgiven the offender — who would I be to do such a thing?
Now consider…
Mk 11:25-26 “And whenever you stand praying, if you have anything against anyone, forgive him, that your Father in heaven may also forgive you your trespasses. But if you do not forgive, neither will your Father in heaven forgive your trespasses.”
For such forceful words above Jesus makes NO mention of repentance — Jesus forgave at every opportunity… we can do no less.
Now as to repentance… where Jesus DOES demand such it is in relation to forgiveness of one’s brother, i.e., between brethren, aka believers — because they should know better.