The problem I have with that is that it conflicts with the scriptures, which teach that all will be reconciled.
It also conflicts with reason, because it portrays God as unable or unwilling to rescue the lost(apollumi) who are ruining themselves, and an eternity of mental anguish for millions of billions as an acceptable conclusion to the plan of God, which is also pretty harsh(and imo, sick)
Yet Paul says, in Colossians 1
19 For it was the Father’s good pleasure for all the fullness to dwell in Him, 20 and through Him to reconcile all things to Himself, having made peace through the blood of His cross; through Him, I say, whether things on earth or things in heaven.
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21 And although you were formerly alienated and hostile in mind, engaged in evil deeds, 22 yet He has now reconciled you** in His fleshly body through death, in order to present you before Him holy and blameless and beyond reproach—
So, we all were once as they, raging and railing and arrogant and fading away into outer darkness(BTW, I love The Great Divorce), "yet He has now reconciled you…"
He has now reconciled you.
He has done it and we are in it, but NOT OF OUR OWN DOING. So if it is not of us, then God is the one who has done it, and if He has done it for us, and NOT DONE IT BECAUSE OF ANY MERIT OF OURS, then He will do it for all, and not by any merit of theirs.
And **you were dead in your trespasses and sins, 2 in which you formerly walked **according to the course of this world, according to the prince of the power of the air, of the spirit that is now working in the sons of disobedience. 3 Among them we too all formerly lived in the lusts of our flesh, indulging the desires of the flesh and of the mind, and were by nature children of wrath, even as the rest. 4 But God, being rich in mercy, because of His great love with which He loved us, 5 even when we were dead in our transgressions, made us alive together with Christ (by grace you have been saved), 6 and raised us up with Him, and seated us with Him in the heavenly places in Christ Jesus, 7 **so that in the ages to come **He might show the surpassing riches of His grace in kindness toward us in Christ Jesus. 8 For by grace you have been saved through faith; and that not of yourselves, it is the gift of God; 9 not as a result of works, so that no one may boast. 10 For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand so that we would walk in them.
We are His workmanship, and our work, to be completed in the ages to come, is reconciling all things to God, participating as the children of God in “the restoration of all things spoken of by all the prohets since the foundation of the world”(Ac 3:19) and the “gathering together of all things into one in Christ”(Eph 1:9-11)- a dispensation(plan/administration) suitable to(to be implemented over) the fulness of times(until the ages are complete)
Rom 8:18 For I consider that the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory that is to be revealed to us. 19 For the anxious longing of the creation waits eagerly for the revealing of the sons of God. 20 For the creation was subjected to futility, not willingly, but because of Him who subjected it, in hope 21 that the creation itself also will be set free from its slavery to corruption into the freedom of the glory of the children of God. 22 For we know that the whole creation groans and suffers the pains of childbirth together until now
Eph 1:9-12 He made known to us the mystery of His will, according to His kind intention which He purposed in Him 10 with a view to an administration suitable to the fullness of the times, that is, the summing up of all things in Christ, things in the heavens and things on the earth. In Him 11 also we have obtained an inheritance, having been predestined according to His purpose who works all things after the counsel of His will, 12 to the end that we who were the first to hope in Christ would be to the praise of His glory.
The idea that any kind of torment, be it mental or emotional, self inflicted or whatever -ETERNALLY, could be categorized as “not so bad” is, imo, superficial reasoning. Just ask a schizophrenic what 6 months on the edge of a delusional breakdown is like.
The result of your reasoning is that you saved yourself by a decision you made, therefore you deserve eternal life, and they rejected that choice, so they desrve eternal torment. But the scripture say you were saved BY GRACE through faith AND THAT NOT OF YOURSELF- it was a GIFT from God.
The scripture says God saved you for a purpose, and that purpose will not be complete until all are gathered in, reconciled, restored.