I agree…also there’s this idea that Christians can’t have fun, because the church has read the Bible’s teaching on various human activities as comprehensive to-do and to-never-do lists, not as the wisdom of God overlooking human selfishness, particularly during a time in history where women were merely property - a wisdom that actually leads to people questioning that very situation.
ie, God didn’t say don’t drink…He “said” (at least via Solomon) that “wine is a mocker”. He says be careful, because too much can make you act like an idiot, and sobriety and control over one’s self are to be prized, not feared. That’s relevant because so many drink to forget their problems, or as one of many ways to distract from the fear of death.
there’s lots of examples like this, but centuries of preachers telling us that holiness is a laundry list of x, y and z have given us this unhelpful baggage that we are meant to be somber and not have any fun. God is a God of joy and life, and He made many things in the world for us to enjoy, but He wants us to be responsible with them, and not selfish, and not retreat into abusing those things because we are full of fear.
Christians are meant to be known by our love…and the fruits of the Spirit, against which there is no law. Not cheesy fake happiness, but real joy and peace and love for people, wherever, whoever or whatever they are.
Crikey, i have a loooong way to go, if i’m going to embody any of that!