This is a sensitive subject that hits a raw nerve. Love is a big word with a nebulous meaning. Is it an emotion? Is it a lofty principle? Is it is the opposite of hate? Is conflating “really liking” someone with loving them? Is saying “I love you bro,” saying I really like you and care about you because we have a lot in common and I got nice warm feelings about you?
From my own life experience the most painful thing is to be considered (really not considered at all) with indifference. No one cares whether you are alive or dead, no one cares what your thoughts and passions are, you are an inconsequential blip on the “radar” of those around you. This indifference takes you to the brink of the abyss where death is much more compelling than what passes for being alive in this world. This happens all to easily in modern urban life where neighbors don’t give the the time of day to each other, but will instead text and discuss on internet forums with “disembodied” others 
Give me the obsessive, burning hatred of someone over their indifference any day. At least they are acknowledging you are alive and what you say and do has some impact on their consciousness so that they cannot simply dismiss your existence.
What happened to Jesus at Golgotha was not the wrath or hatred of God towards him as an individual or as a representative for the world. It was the abandonment, the indifference of God that Jesus experienced. Is this even possible? Is YHWH (“I will prove to be what I will prove to be”) who is agape, ever indifferent to His beloved other-- the creation? Or rather, does He prove to be the One who will faithfully expended the full measure of His life to reach into the the depths of the godforsaken despair of those who feel that they have been discarded into the trash dump of Gehenna. How many nameless, anonymous, countless others throughout history are numbered among those godless, forgotten, nobodies? Their pain, their despair, their suicides; where living another moment in this world, as it is, is more unbearable then the unknown of death.
Some of those suicides are atheists; real atheists, who protest and rail against the terrible inequitableness of this world in the face of the assertions of an omnipotent god. The first Christians were accused of being atheists by Rome. They were irreligious and yet stroved to be equitable to those who were their neighbor–the unbelievers and heathens. By doing so they were bearing witness to the equitableness of God. They were able to be a witness because of the resurrection of the Crucified One.
The resurrection of Jesus, the abandoned, godforsaken One reveals to the world God as He really is; not the holier than thou standoffish cosmic potentate demanding that we crawl towards Him over the broken glass of our suffering proving to him that we are worthy of His gift of eternal life – His Life. Rather He is the God who goes to those who are overwhelmed by their suffering and despair and brings his healing life to them to clean their gangrenous wounds, wash their bloodied, broken bodies and make them whole and alive beyond all that is thought to be appropriate and possible.
The resurrection is the indiscriminate splattering of the Life of God across the whole wide universe from the very beginning of time to the end of time. This is the agape of God. He gives His Life freely and indiscriminately to everyone and everything whether they be saintly human, sociopath or a virus.
The love of God doesn’t “like us” as were are and saves and preserves us eternally like some sort of Egyptian mummy as our “real self” at the moment of our death. No, He really, really does agape us. He wipes the slate clean (the eschatological Jubilee) of our so-called lives – with all the sin, brokenness and incompleteness (He remembers our sins no more) – and gives us a new start, a new birth as children born equitably and equally from the “loins” of Abba, Father. We will all have the same pedigree, the same heritage, the same logos (genome)from the very source of Life with none of the death derivative intermediaries that define the current reality.
Agape is not about being liked, it is about being born anew as truly human as Jesus, the very image of God.
part of my point pilgrim is that if we were ‘‘more like Jesus’’ quiet possibly the only ones who would be infuriated with us and possibly want to slap us would be those who claim to represent GOD, perhaps its just me but I seem to have the ability perhaps to some extent the desire to make christians hate me
.God alone knows!
then my friends, that saddens me, and it saddens me your comments about hatred or resentment towards yourselves. This is an exciting and stimulating brotherly sisterly loving forum, debates are debates, and there will always be differences, but hatred? Don’t believe it, dear Brothers.
this is becoming a habit I confess, grabbing the last sentence of yours . just for your info I left the circus years ago and on the odd occasion when my wife decides we need to ‘‘go to church’’ I begrudgingly go along but I assure you I am rather uncomfortable , so I much prefer to simply [in your words] stick with the heard as there are plenty on lovely non-believers who aren’t pretentious , they have no ulterior motive in getting to know you and besides I do believe a good percentage of them shall be going through those pearly gates before a good percentage of christians do , besides I’ve always found it way more satisfying when a non-believer asks you ‘‘what do you believe’’ 
and, like yourself and many others, posts to Johnny Parker which had a happy conclusion !