Debbie,
Sometimes people read that Hebrews verse and treat it as a “law” --that everyone must physically die once and be judged–is that what you are getting at?
I don’t (at this time) see this statement as a “law” per se, but rather a general statement of how things normally go. The passage is focused on Christ, and simply makes the comparison between his situation and the normal human series of events. The way I see the 1 Cor passage, Paul is speaking of the resurrection of the dead–at the end, when Christ’s visible return occurs, those who have not yet physically died will be transformed into their resurrected bodies, and bypassing physical death.
Not sure if that’s the kind of response you’re looking for (I haven’t had time to read through this whole discussion), but that’s what comes to mind when I look at these passages.
Sonia